Free Canon Law Diagnostic

The 5 Formation Gaps That Break Catholic Marriages

A review of 1,847 marriage tribunal cases across 150+ dioceses reveals the same preventable patterns. The Forever Test helps you discover whether those gaps exist in your relationship before your wedding day.

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The Forever Test

A Canon Law diagnostic that examines the five pillars required for valid matrimonial consent. This is not a feel-good quiz. It may reveal gaps you need to address.

Based on the 5 Pillars of Valid Consent
Honest readiness score
Specific areas for growth identified
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1,847
Cases Reviewed
18+
Years on the Tribunal
150+
Dioceses Served
50+
Books Published

Most Couples Are Not As Ready As They Think

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critical formation gaps appear in the majority of tribunal cases reviewed

1,847

cases show the same preventable patterns repeating across cultures and continents

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of these couples believed their marriage would fail on their wedding day

Based on a direct review of 1,847 marriage tribunal cases across 150+ dioceses over 18 years

"They planned the wedding. Nobody prepared them for the marriage. The gaps were there long before the ceremony, often since childhood."

The Forever Test: An Honest Look at Your Readiness

Based on "The 5 Conversations a Couple Must Have Before Marriage," this AI-powered diagnostic examines the five pillars that Canon Law requires for valid matrimonial consent. These are the same pillars evaluated in every marriage tribunal case.

The test will give you an honest score. If you are ready, it will confirm that. If you are not, it will tell you exactly where the gaps are so you can address them. Better to discover this now than in a tribunal years from now.

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Freedom
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Understanding
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Permanence
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Fidelity
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Openness
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5-Minute Assessment

Quick but thorough examination of each pillar.

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Honest Readiness Score

Not designed to make you feel good. Designed to tell you the truth.

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Specific Gap Identification

Know exactly which pillars need attention and what to do next.

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Six Stages of Catholic Marriage Formation

Most programs begin at engagement. By then, the deepest formation gaps are already set. We start where the patterns actually begin.

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Childhood & Family

Birth to 12 Years

The domestic church is where children first learn what marriage looks like. Love, honesty, forgiveness, and self-control are absorbed, not taught. This is where formation begins.

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Youth Guidance

13 to 25 Years

Young people need to understand their purpose before choosing a spouse. The right relationship makes you better. The wrong one can set a trajectory that ends in the tribunal.

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Engagement & Courtship

Dating to Engagement

This is the stage for asking the hard questions. Not "Do I love this person?" but "Can we handle money, conflict, children, and faith together for the rest of our lives?"

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Marriage Preparation

Engagement to Wedding

Standard Pre-Cana covers communication and finances. We go deeper into what the Church actually requires for valid consent: the five pillars that determine whether your marriage is real.

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Marriage Mystagogy

First 5 Years

The first years are the hardest and the most formative. Small daily choices in these years create the patterns that will sustain or erode your marriage for decades.

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Marriage Mentoring

Mature Marriage & Beyond

Your experience is needed. We help mature couples become mentors for younger ones, but only after careful preparation. Not every couple is ready to mentor, and that is okay.

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These resources contain the same frameworks and insights from our books and programs. We believe every Catholic couple deserves access to this formation, regardless of ability to pay.

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Five Pillars Assessment Workbook

The same framework used in our paid course, adapted as a self-guided workbook. Evaluate your readiness across all five pillars with guided questions.

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25 Essential Conversations Guide

Structured discussion starters drawn from the patterns observed across 1,847 tribunal cases. These are the conversations that matter most.

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Wedding Week Spiritual Preparation

A day-by-day guide for the seven days before your wedding. Rooted in the Church's liturgical and sacramental tradition.

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Ongoing Resources

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Each week, one insight drawn from 18 years of tribunal experience. Practical. Honest. No fluff.

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Article Library

In-depth articles on marriage preparation, Canon Law, and family formation. Updated regularly.

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Catholic Marriage Life exists because the same preventable patterns keep appearing in marriage tribunal cases. Good people with pure intentions see their marriages fail because nobody taught them what valid consent actually requires. The formation gaps are there long before the ceremony.

This ministry was built to prevent the cases that tribunals are left to judge.

1,847
Tribunal Cases Reviewed
18+
Years of Tribunal Research
150+
Dioceses Represented
50+
Books Published

Founded by Rev. Fr. Michael C. Chime, JCD, President of the Interdiocesan Marriage Tribunal, Diocese of Enugu, Nigeria

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Patterns from 18 Years of Tribunal Cases

Pattern 1: Understanding

In the majority of cases reviewed, at least one spouse entered marriage without a clear understanding of what the Church means by permanence, fidelity, or openness to children. The knowledge gap was there before the wedding.

Based on tribunal case data

Pattern 2: Formation Timing

The deepest formation gaps did not begin at engagement. They began in childhood, in homes where faith was nominal or where conflict was never resolved in healthy ways. By engagement, the patterns were already deeply set.

Based on tribunal case data

Pattern 3: The Missing Conversations

Case after case reveals couples who discussed wedding logistics in detail but never had serious conversations about children, conflict resolution, extended family, finances, or the meaning of the vows they were about to make.

Based on tribunal case data

These patterns are drawn from a direct review of 1,847 tribunal cases across 150+ dioceses over 18 years. Individual case details are never disclosed.

From the Article Library

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Why Pre-Cana Is Not Enough: What Most Programs Miss

Standard programs cover communication and finances. They rarely address the five pillars that determine whether consent is valid in the eyes of the Church.

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The Conversation Most Engaged Couples Skip

After reviewing 1,847 cases, one pattern emerged as the most consistent predictor of future marital difficulty.

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Building the Domestic Church: Where Marriage Formation Begins

The tribunal cases reviewed today have roots in the family environments of 20 or 30 years ago. Here is what parents can do differently.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Is the Forever Test really free?
Yes, completely free. No email required, no credit card, no hidden fees. The test is built on the same Canon Law framework used in actual tribunal work. It was made free because every couple deserves to know where they stand before their wedding day.
What if the Forever Test shows I am not ready?
Then the test has done its job. Being told you are not ready is not a failure. It is a gift. It means you have time to address the gaps before making a lifelong commitment. Many couples who score low on one or two pillars simply need more time and guided conversation in those areas. Our free workbooks and articles can help you begin that work immediately. If you want structured support, the Formation Course provides guided implementation with personal feedback.
What makes this different from Pre-Cana?
Pre-Cana programs typically focus on communication skills, finances, and conflict resolution. While important, these do not address the five pillars that Canon Law requires for valid consent: Freedom, Understanding, Permanence, Fidelity, and Openness to children. These are the specific issues evaluated in every tribunal case. Our resources address the formation gaps that standard programs leave untouched.
Why do you give so much away for free?
Because the knowledge itself should be accessible to every Catholic couple in the world. Eighteen years of tribunal work have shown, again and again, that marriages fail because nobody taught couples what valid consent requires. Putting that knowledge behind a paywall would be a disservice to the very people this ministry exists to serve. Our free resources contain the actual frameworks. Our paid offerings provide guided implementation, personal feedback, and structured accountability for those who want deeper formation.
Does everyone who takes the Formation Course receive a certificate?
No. The Certificate of Formation is awarded to couples who demonstrate genuine understanding of the five pillars through completed reflection exercises and engagement with the material. Simply paying for the course does not earn the certificate. This is deliberate. We want the certificate to mean something real, both to the couples who receive it and to the parishes and priests who may rely on it as evidence of serious preparation.
Do I need to be engaged to use these resources?
No. Our resources are designed for anyone at any stage: those discerning whether to date seriously, couples in courtship, engaged couples, newlyweds, and married couples who want to strengthen their bond. Parents preparing their children for future marriage will also find valuable guidance here, particularly in Stage 1 (Childhood and Family Formation).
Is this only for Catholics?
While our resources are rooted in Catholic teaching and Canon Law, the principles of freedom, understanding, permanence, fidelity, and openness apply to any couple seeking a lifelong marriage. Many non-Catholics have found our resources helpful. However, the tribunal-specific guidance and sacramental preparation content is specifically Catholic.
Can I use these resources for parish marriage preparation?
Absolutely. Many parishes use our resources to supplement their existing programs. The Forever Test works well as a pre-assessment tool, and the workbooks provide structured discussion guides. We have specific parish partnership options. Contact us for details on volume access and training for your marriage preparation team.
Why do some resources require email?
The Forever Test requires no email so you can start immediately with zero friction. For downloadable PDF resources, we ask for your email so we can deliver the files and send relevant follow-up guidance. We respect your privacy and never share your information. You can unsubscribe at any time.

Most Couples Think They Are Ready. The Data Says Otherwise.

The Forever Test takes 5 minutes. It requires no email and no payment. It will give you an honest score based on the same Canon Law framework used in the marriage tribunal. Better to know now.

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